Team Worth finds itself facing its greatest separation ever, for more than twice as long as ever! Katie and Eden flew out of Grand Rapids on Wednesday for New Jersey to enjoy Memorial Day with her family. They are not scheduled for a return until Saturday June 2nd. The time and distance seemed a daunting task, but it is funny how God often uses the things we fear to work mightily in our lives.
The last month or two Katie and I began allowing frustration and arguing to get a foothold in our marriage. We have never been prolific arguers, but recently you wouldn't be able to tell. If marriage teaches you how selfish you are, then becoming a parent only intensifies that awareness. I say this because, most of our arguing stems from our selfish desires. We want our personal free time and both usually feel as though we have received the short end of the stick.
I have attempted to pin this recent bickering on a thousand different things, but it has clearly stemmed from a lack of intimacy with God, our Creator and Redeemer. Now, Katie and I are finding that just having a couple days of distance has allowed us so see past our circumstances and the busy stress that brings out our selfishness. We have become more acutely aware of how desperately dependent we must be on God, and how important it is for us to cultivate a daily awareness of His work in our lives.
I can also testify to the truth that absence does make the heart grow fonder! I miss Katie like the desert misses rain. This also aids in gaining a new perspective and refocusing our desires on our spouse, as opposed to ourselves.
I don't write this to say we are cured, or that just because we know what is wrong the struggle is now over. I just write this to update you with how God is working in our lives. It is a difficult process ripping out the deep seeded roots of selfishness. A long and difficult process, but we cannot let bitterness find its way into our hearts or our marriage. We must learn to love as Jesus loved us, giving Himself up for us. That is what we vowed to do on the day we said I do, and I anticipate that this struggle with be a life long one.
Thanks for taking a moment out of your day to read what is new in Team Worth! We would love to hear your feedback if you have gone through similar trials as this, or if you have an encouragement for us.